All you have to do is play Xbox with a black avatar or a “black voice” and hear the word nigger over 50 times in a week. My room mate plays xbox360 regularly and he is very good. He plays a lot of madden and first person shooters like halo and call of duty. But why is it…
(Warning: Children, and some adults, foul language will be repeated.)
Not so long ago, I took phone calls for Sony PlayStation and also answered the emails that customers would send to us. Most people have no idea how often things like this occur for a lot of the online games. Not just Sony or Microsoft. And even better, not!, I would have to reset passwords or research hacked accounts. Some people thought that it’d be a funny idea to make the answer to their secret question, “Where were you born?” “in my bitch of a mother’s pussy.” Or their actual passwords would be “nigger +/- bitch.” (Or any combination of ethnic slurs with female-bashing pejoratives.)
I’ve worked hard to forget most of this, because it got to the point where I hated to read these emails or do password resets. One day, just about every account that I had to correct used epithets for non-white and non-male people. Normally, I don’t take this to heart, but it was account after account after account. I had to actually talk to these people without sounding like I wanted to slap them. Still, I don’t know what look I had on my face, but my manager (who’s caucasian) came past to look at my screen and as soon as she saw what I was looking at, she asked me if I was ok and how often I see things like this on these accounts. (She knew that this occurred, but not at the rate that it had been at that time.) I told her that we all see it quite often, but I’d been seeing it all day and can I take a 15 minute break, because I feel frustrated? (She gave me a 3 hour break! She was awesome! I went home and took a nap.)
When I came back to work, I’d found out that she had checked with everyone else in our department and found that they had seen the same things. The elders in our dept were really upset by it; none of them were Af. Am. if that matters for any of you reading this. The sad non-irony of this is that half the accounts that I worked on that day alone, were made by kids; the other half of the accounts were made by adults. I signed a confidentiality agreement, so I can’t tell you how we dealt with those accounts, but I can tell you that I had a blast “correcting” them for violations of the TOS.
Oh, yeah! ^^
Wow. That makes the inner workings of this shit sound almost even scarier.
Never forget the fact people enjoy racism and sexism. People engage in it for pleasure.
And this is why all the “oh they’re just being childish” excuses piss me right the fuck off. Kids don’t start out enjoying inflicting pain on others, they’re taught that it’s amusing & a grand joke & a dozen other justifications so that the cycle of oppression can be perpetuated. If we can teach kids not to stare, why on earth do people think they can’t learn to be decent human beings to everyone?
As an owner of a PS3 and a former Xbox Live account all I can say is PREACH! And as a female gamer you’re in your own world of scary. Random messages from dudes, they target you when you’re playing, hate you when you win, and these are not children these are men in their 20s and 30s on up.
I’m so glad that the gentleman working for Sony got to hand those people their asses though. And I’m glad he had an awesome manager who took charge of that situation and started action to rectify it.
“You think it’s a compliment to say you prefer “plumper” women; you think it’s showing solidarity to call thin women “gross”. I think you don’t have any idea how to talk to or about women as though we were *gasp* people, and not objects awaiting your evaluation.”—
“But honestly if someone is answering a question that’s not directed at them, turn their direction and give them a confused look with your mouth slightly agape, slowly shift your head and eyes back toward the person whom the question was in fact directed to, and re-ask the question. Makes them feel hella dumb. I’ve done it on numerous occasions.”—monochromaticblack.tumblr.com
“But honestly if someone is answering a question that’s not directed at them, turn their direction and give them a confused look with your mouth slightly agape, slowly shift your head and eyes back toward the person whom the question was in fact directed to, and re-ask the question. Makes them feel hella dumb. I’ve done it on numerous occasions.”—monochromaticblack.tumblr.com/
Earlier, I made a comment about how white people can’t stand for there to be a conversation that doesn’t include us, that our opinions are irrelevant to. And I hit post and kept going. But it kept coming back to me. Finally, I made the connection: that sounds like a…
Just out of curiosity, and I'll probably sound like a total bitch, but I have to ask someone. ALL the time, at work mostly. Whenever I do my job, and ask for ID, or call a manager when needed. Someone will pull, "Is it because I'm BLACK?!" No, it's my job. Do you realize this is a problem and try to avoid this, or do you think people honestly have a claim. I don't think black people are racist, but I do think this excuse is overused...
First: Good question. You don’t sound like a bitch, and I’m happy to answer just about any question on this issue.
What excuse? The reason black people like myself seem like we often accuse people of racially discriminating against us is because we feel like we’re being racially discriminated against. (Not in order to make white people uncomfortable, as some for some unfathomable reason assume.) Do you know how many times in my life I’ve been followed around a store for absolutely no reason? Do you know how many times I’ve had one employee say to another, “watch those girls. They’re going steal something.”? Do you know how often I’ve listened to people have open conversations about how they’re “not racist” but would “never date a black person”? Do you know how many times I’ve gone to look at a room for rent (I’m a uni student) and mysteriously, when I arrive, the landlord decides the place isn’t for rent anymore? Do you know how many times I’ve heard the words “be careful, or you’ll get robbed by a bunch of black people!”? Do you know how many times I’ve dropped of resumes with my white friends with white names and less experience (I’ve been working since the DAY I was legally allowed to at 14) and watched them get calls back while I got nothing? Do you know how many times I’ve been told “You have such a high vocabulary! It’s like you’re not even black!”? Do you know how many times my boss has told me to keep an eye on certain customers, all of whom were POC and NONE of whom were white?
What I’m trying to say here is that If I come to your register and you ask me for ID because you have to ask everyone, I may accuse you of being racist. I may be mistaken, but my accusations are not unfounded.
If you’re accused of being racist, you don’t even have to tell anyone about it. Just stop and think for a second. Be honest with yourself. Did this persons race factor in in ANY way in the way that you treated them?
If it did, don’t beat yourself up about it. We ALL do it. Even me. But it’s not acceptable. You need to check your behavior and do your absolute fucking best that to make sure it doesn’t happen again.
If it didn’t think about it again. Really think about it. If you’re positively sure, don’t be rude, don’t be snippy, just politely explain your position, and LISTEN. Because you’re not the one being oppressed here. And if I could trade all the racist bullshit that I have to deal with on the daily with an awkward conversation with an annoyed customer at work once every couple of weeks, I would do it in a fucking heartbeat.
We aren't the girls who get 42 'likes' on our Facebook pictures, we aren't the girls that act dumb to get the guys, or that wear shorts with our asses hanging out. We care more about music than popularity. We are the girls who have laughing fits without worrying if are faces look weird, we are the girls who genuinely care about how you are, we are the girls who don't make a big deal of what you said 2 years ago, we're the girls who care more about being nice that who thinks that we're 'hot', we are the girls who can be quiet and often overlooked, but I guarantee we are the girls you'd rather be friends with.
This is called “passive aggressive hating.” Oh my goodness, get a life. Why do you feel the need to explicate what kind of girl you are? Why do you care what kind of girl other girls are? This is actually pathetic.